So, on my landmark birthday our flights to Spain get
cancelled due to airport troubles with drones and we are unable to go. I can
only imagine what the reaction might have been if it had been on her birthday!
(but let me not guess – perhaps it would have been fine.) Not really bothered
about going out but she insists that we go to a pub – she tries one that she
really likes, fails and then goes for a second. All good.
Her birthday comes, it’s on a Sunday. ‘Shall we try a
week-day lunch at a nice place?’ ‘No – we’ll take our son along.’ ‘Ok.’ ‘Shall
I book the pub we couldn’t get on my birthday?’ ‘No – let’s go into the centre
of town. Somewhere nice.’
Glad I asked about the pub rather than book it!! Would not
have been ‘good enough’.
I read somewhere that after the age of 11 one really should not
care about birthdays. But clearly not in this case!
After our tempestuous year in 2015, and shopping
episode we take an equal amount from the joint account as the Christmas and
birthday bonus. I go for Christmas shopping one day with her. The other day she
says, ‘I think I will buy a watch for my birthday – I will take you with me.’
As I write these, they seem very little and, indeed, they
are – but it is all about self-importance and making others dance to her tune.
The mood, overall, had been a little ‘off’ lately. I use a
travelcard to go back and forth from work and this can be registered onto
an online system where all movements can be tracked and, in case of loss, money
protected. She had been nagging me for months to get it registered and I had always
resisted – for no particular reason. Again, she went on at me until I gave in.
She went online and did all the work. I stepped out of the room to get something
and came back to find that she was trawling through my journeys from previous
months – and it suddenly struck me that she possibly took my reluctance to
register as a sign that I did not want her to see my journeys. Perhaps she was
thinking that I was having this mythical affair and my travel history would
give it away.
Mood has substantially improved – no such evidence as no
such fact!!
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